Jealous employees gossip about their coworker whose boyfriend regularly orders coffee to the office for her: 'The women think my girlfriend is rubbing it in their face that she gets treated to a nice drink every few days'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Nov 17, 2024 6:00 PM EST

Nobody wants to be envied. Although some products are advertised with the rhetoric, "You'll be the envy of all your friends if you buy this," nobody actually wants that. Envy is much worse than jealousy because it actively pins for the demise of the envied in favor of the envier's promotion. You don't have to take action to gain what someone else has to ensure they don't have it to be on the wrong side of the envy debate. Simply putting out an envious energy can harm the envied and make the good things in their life feel like a burden. 

The women in this story have a classic envier/envied dynamic. They're all employees at the same office, and a small group constantly whispers and stares at their coworker whose boyfriend has coffee delivered to her a couple of times a week. God forbid she has a boyfriend who treats her well. 

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    Ive been sending my girlfriend Starbucks delivery every couple of days and it started to cause issues at her work.
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    I'm 28F and my girlfriend is 27 My girlfriend is extremely picky with her coffee, she hates hot coffee or coffee without a sh ton of milk. Both me and my girlfriend have separate finances.
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    Whenever my girlfriend texts me that her day is boring or stressful I will uber eats Starbucks to her work so she has a coffee and a cake pop. It's something I can afford to do and she absolutely loves whenever I surprise her at work with a sweet treat. I've been doing it for the past couple of months with no issue.
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    A few days ago my girlfriend came home and told me she absolutely loves the Starbucks and doesn't want me to stop, but that some of the other women have started to kick up a fuss over it and from what my girlfriend was able to gather, the woman think my girlfriend is rubbing it in their face that she gets treated to a nice drink every few days. It's started to cause some issues in the break room due to some of the woman being incredibly jealous. I'm wondering if I stop for a while or continue do
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    peakpenguins • 19h ago Top 10% Commenter I'm wondering if I stop for a while or continue doing it? Leave that up to your girlfriend. If you want to keep sending her coffees then it's up to her if she wants to deal with the jealous office ΝΤΑ. or not.
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    Autistic_Tap_5622 OP I'll ask her tonite, TY
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    Poorchick91 NTA. They are petty and jealous. I had this happen when my partner and I lived around the corner from my job. I often left without lunch and he'd bring it to me. Bout the 4th time a coworker tried to tell me he shouldn't be doing that with a petty tone.
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    Like he's here for 2 seconds to drop off my lunch and then leave. There's no policy against it a no manager has had an issue with it. Sorry your partner isn't a thoughtful person that pays attention to you and makes sure you get to eat during a long shift. But that's not my issue. Instead of being mad my partner gives a sh about me, maybe set a higher bar and find someone who gives two about you. Let her coworkers be petty. That's their issue not yours or your girlfriends.
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    Responsible-Gain3949 She needs to talk to the manager. They can either talk to the colleagues and tell them to mind their own business or give advice on how to collect the delivery without it causing drama. It's not acceptable behaviour from adults. Unless your GF is making a scene and drawing attention to how wonderful you are whilst ignoring how they respond, then it's insane that they can't keep their private lives private.
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    angelgirlbella Don't stop. These women are clearly jealous but I find it alarming that they feel the need to make your girlfriend feel bad about... if I was in there spot would I be jealous? Yeah probably. But you'd never ever catch me making her feel bad! That's ridiculous. She's lucky to have such a sweet gf! Unless it's the higher ups giving her a hassle I don't see a reason to stop. Let them be pred off.
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    Autistic_Tap_5622 OP No higher ups hassling her
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    angelgirlbella I would keep treating her then. And by kick up a fuss what do you mean exactly? What are they saying to her?
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    Autistic_Tap_5622 OP She has caught them staring and whispering whenever she brings her drink and treat into the break room.
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    angelgirlbella How petty. That's unfortunate. They're definitely just jealous but I don't know why they have to be so bitter about it. If they want Starbucks maybe they should go find someone who will treat them the way you treat your girlfriend. There shouldn't be a problem with this at all. Not like they're paying for it
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    No_Winner1131 Time to up the ante. Send flowers, chocolate covered strawberries, a singing telegram (maybe not). NTA Good people would be happy for her, you don't need to worry about the other kind of people.
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    SatisfactionGold74 And some Mariachi dudes singing about how much you love her!!!
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    [deleted] You might not like to hear this but... it's entirely possible your gf is oblivious to how much she may be bragging, which could be what is breeding resentment. You're never gonna get the truth from her if that's the case and you're not gonna speak to her coworkers but I wouldn't assume anything of anyone involved. I say this because Starbucks delivery is such a nothing thing that it would be weird for a whole group of women to suddenly start getting jealous of a 10 dollar drink.
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    DrummerClear7639 NTA. I worked at a gym for a while and there was one girl who's boyfriend would bring her coffee to work sometimes. One of the other girls I worked with at the time was always so bothered by it and I had no idea why. It was in between our busy periods, he was in and out in about 2 minutes max. He would walk in, go to her station, set the coffee down and maybe give her a quick kiss and leave. I never understood why it bothered everyone so much and I still don't tbh.
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    mirmyjo I would kill them with kindness. Send the girls she works with a whole order of coffees and a card. Have the card say "Yall deserve to be treated to a good day. I hope one day you pay it forward. Thanks for making my gfs work environment so welcoming!" Then never do it again, And then see if they ever complain again.
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    VelvetWhimsyy NTA, but it's all about that balance, right? Maybe keep the treat train rolling but less often? Switch up the delivery times or pick days when it won't stir the pot. Jealousy at work is real, but shouldn't spoil your cute gesture!
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